I started wearing my hair long and tied back back in September 1994 — I know this with a great deal of precision because it was the start of eighth grade. I had it cut back shoulder-length in ninth grade, but other than that it’s been longer and tied back basically every day since. By late 2012 I’d gotten completely sick of the wash-and-dry process taking 3+ hours, but I was still afraid to get it cut short, because I have a very fat face, and I just knew that it would look terrible and everyone would make fun of me and it would ruin everything forever.

And then I found out about this tumblr, and was able to see lots and lots of actual pictures of actual fat feminine-type people with short hair, and you can probably guess what happened next.

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I am now two weeks in to the shortest hair I’ve had since I was 10, and I really, really enjoy it.  In fact, this is the first time I’ve actually liked my hair in… ever, maybe.  I feel almost like maybe I was supposed to have short hair all along, and the last couple decades of ponytails have been a terrible, terrible mistake.  In these pictures it’s basically not gelled at all. Sometimes I use more gel to achieve what one of my co-workers dubbed a “James-Dean-lookin’ thing”.  It makes me happy either way.

The stylist I went to (if you live in Madison, Wisconsin, go to Thorps and ask for Jen) didn’t give me a single bit of trouble about trying to mix short hair with a fat face.  She actually told me “I’m really glad you’re doing this” before she went to work.  I’m glad too!  If anyone can make use of these pictures as references for their own shiny new haircuts, then we can all be glad together. 

New hairdo

I have to say I have always pretty much had long hair til 4 years ago and I’ve cut it shoulder length & above the ear.. All stylist told me I could never pull off a pixie, I finally got the courage after seeing all the beautiful woman on this site that have chopped all off their hair and said I am gonna do it. I finally went to the salon this morning showed them a picture and said this is what I want.. They finally did it & without telling me how bad it was gonna look. Here is a picture of my new pixie look. I LOVE IT. Thank you ladies for giving me courage to do this.All the haircuts I've had til I got my pixie in last 4 years.

Hi! My name is Rachel. I just pixie-d my hair yesterday (6/23/14) and I love it! It actually made my face look thinner!! Here is the picture!

I don’t know if it’ll go through and if i doesn’t I’m sorry. The url thing is being weird for me.

Hello girls!

Okay so I know I haven’t posted in over a week but I promise everyone I will get back on it. I’ve been extremely busy so I haven’t had time to go through submissions etc.

But I will get back to it tomorrow. I promise!

-Carina

Stay beautiful ladies 💕

How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

(via choosepositivity)

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